What sort of questions should I ask you? Who will answer? —F.W. Olin
Any and all questions are welcome. Both, either or neither of us will answer them. And you’ll like it!
—Captain Dominatrix
I’m going to my cousin’s wedding in 3 weeks. The dress code is “black tie optional.” What do I wear? —Fit to be Tied
“Black tie optional” means the couple would prefer black tie attire but do not want to impose the financial burden of purchasing or renting appropriate clothing on attendees. If you own black tie (tuxedo with a black bow tie and cummerbund for men and a dressy floor-length or cocktail dress for women), wear it. If not, dress as nicely as you can. A dark suit and conservative tie or an elegant ensemble of separates is appropriate.
—Duchess of Deportment
Where is the best place for a first date in Boston?
—Cupid OK
Machine’s fetish night, Sin-O-Matic, is the 3rd Saturday of every month.
—Captain Dominatrix
Try going for tapas at Toro. The food is delicious, and the atmosphere is not intimidatingly formal for a first date.
—Duchess of Deportment
How much PDA is too much PDA?
—Smoochin’ Sally
I’m all about the PDA; I’m an exhibitionist. However, it’s important to make sure you are not involving people non-consensually in your love life. That is, if you’re making people uncomfortable, don’t do it.
—Captain Dominatrix
Keep the public displays of affection to hand-holding and hugs in public; cheek pecks are also okay, but save the serious smooching for your room. Needless to say, makeout sessions in the lounges are never appreciated.
—Duchess of Deportment
I’ve been noticing a lot of people smoking in public places on campus lately. It’s been bothering me a lot and I was wondering what the etiquette of smoking on campus or talking to people about it is? —Asthmatic Ashley
Smokers should indulge their habit where it is least likely to bother others. That means staying away from the entrances to buildings or popular pathways. Feel free to politely request that people smoke further from buildings in the future. The key word there is “politely”–the social norms of smoking vary widely between countries, cities, and families. They may have no clue that they are bothering you.
—Duchess of Deportment
What is the proper tipping protocol for delivered food? Is it a set amount, or proportional to the cost of the food? —Tipsy
Deliveries are unique in that the restaurant employee has made a trip specially for you. Tip at least 10% of the food cost (more for exceptionally prompt service or for a difficult delivery), with a minimum of $2 regardless.
—Duchess of Deportment
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